Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Ladies in hiding don't get sought...

This is an open letter to womankind. Please take this in the best possible way event though it may appear that my tone is harsh and my words prickly. Let me introduce you all to a concept that has been bubbling under the surface for a number of weeks now: Hide and Seek. It has been brought to my attention that there are many available qualified, educated, handsome, ambitious suitors available and looking for female companionship. I’m not just talking about the companionship that starts with SOCO and lime and ends with an un-returned message on your Facebook wall. I’m talking about young guys, fed up with silliness, and hater girls in those leggings pretending that they are pants. I’m talking about college educated, gainfully employed, gents looking for a nice girl to make a good-faith go of it to have a re-la-tion-ship.

There was an article yesterday, in the NYT (New York Times), about our generations’ dating habits. The gist of the article is that the current 20 somethings of the world and college kids currently in school no longer know how to date. Apparently we go out in these massive co-ed groups of friends, get drunk, and then sleep with each other on random occasions. If the hook-ups go ok for a while you have a little DTR and boom, GF/BF. The article continues on to state that as a result of this hook-up culture, we have better inter-sex friendships but we have no idea what it means to date or to get to know a person 1-on 1. Here, Take a look yourself.

Food for thought…I agree that the group date may be the both the chicken and the egg of hook-up culture, but to say we can’t date is ridiculous. We can date. We just can’t find dates!

Back to the larger point. Ladies, why are all these suitable gents having issue finding nice girls to date? Maybe, they have no game. Maybe they smell. Or, just maybe, many of you need to take the “F@uck off!” signs off your foreheads and give the guy in line at the Starbucks a little more to go on than a coy smile he can’t even see. Seriously, stop thinking every dude is a creeper who wants to bang you and all of your friends just because he tried to talk to you, and maybe instead of accidentally hooking up with your buddy Chaz “Roofie-Collata” BestFriend, you can set up a nice afternoon of ice skating and coca with Joe “Good Guy” Intro-tomom.

This has been a public service announcement from Sing &Mar. Happy holidays and try not to choke on your nog.