Ladies and Gentlemen: I have another tasty treat of a tale from the land of the single which I would like to share. After another long week of doing he legal thing, I decided to play an away game on Saturday night and I snuck up off to Princeton to hang out with a dear friend of mine, Jilly from Philly, and her lovely roommate, Grace Note.
The evening was quiet, but the company was lively at the Triumph brewpub. And as one brew became two and new acquaintances became old friends, Grace Note offered up a tale of a date from her past:
Out with her date for the first time in a one on one setting, GN realized early into the date that her relationship with said boy was going to go about as well as a game of solitaire with no cards. During the date, she noticed a different, better looking boy at the end of the bar. GN waited for her date to leave for the bathroom at which point, the other boy approached. He asked her if she was dating the boring guy she with whom was sitting. She replied something to the effect of, “Not for much longer”. They exchanged numbers before the real date returned and she had already backfilled a prospect for the next date.
Initially, my idea for this post was to use the story of Grace Note, to reinforce my broader theory of women being way scummier than men (in general), but upon further reflection I think that what GN did was commendable (Grimey and ruthless, but commendable). When life hands you lemons we make lemonade and similarly, when life hands you a boring date, we recruit as more interesting (hotter) one. Who wants to sit through a brutal date anyway? As soon as it’s clear there is no spark, know that one isn’t going to just appear out of thin air (See my dates with the Lady Law is you don’t think I hold this policy close to my heart).
Prospects are the key to dating happily. Prospects of people you want to date, prospects of dates to come, and prospects of moving forward in a relationship. All gravy. If a date shows no prospects, it’s just slowing you up from other prospects. Cut and run.
Prospects people. Winter is coming and you are going to need both some quantity and quality in your stable for cold nights. Fall is the time to prepare for the cold, so act like a squirrel and get your nuts locked up for the winter.
On a side note, I wanted to say that I think I’m going to have to recant my mantra of the last post. Dating people in immediately close quarters is potentially disastrous beyond any reconcilable circumstances. Do so at your own risk and do so with the up most caution. The details of my 180 about this issue are immaterial. Just trust, that my eyes were opened to some pitfalls that had previously been undiscovered. Whatever though, if you bounce back, then nothing ever really gets you down.
Scars are evidence of living // Basquiat in New York by Sylvia... - Scars are evidence of living // Basquiat in New York by Sylvia Plachy, 1986.
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